Letters to God’s Daughters (#1)

Dear Christian sister, wait on the Lord!

This dawn God laid on my heart to tell my sisters to wait on Him, and write this experience as a letter to you. I’ve told the story a few times of this person I was “talking to”, that I met on a flight, but I’ll share it again.

Sometimes you may think that this person you’re considering is the answer to your prayers, until you end up realising later that you were far from right.

So this man-let’s call him Gustave- was a few years older than me, francophone, super intelligent, and tall and dark. Now ALL these specs were on my prayer checklist so when we happened to sit next to each other and immediately hit it off I thought that was pretty cool and surely couldn’t be a coincidence.

Yet, despite the pros, there were cons, some red flags to be precise. It was a long distance talking phase. There were no mutual friends so I had to believe everything as it was told to me. I didn’t agree fully with his religious beliefs so he claimed he was willing to change churches, although I didn’t quite believe that. He could barely speak English- which meant I had to “channel” my learnt and yet to be learnt French when having a basic chat. I adore French, but that felt like too much work at the time.

Aside that he was a guru in a course I had failed multiple times, finally excelled in, and didn’t want to ever see again. Being with him meant that my life would now revolve around the exact thing I detested.

There were other personal things that came up, but I determined that I wouldn’t let my haste to settle lead me down a road I couldn’t turn back from. I also learnt that a checklist matters but until you lay it before God, don’t go marking off everyone who comes your way. The one who’s best for you may not even match your list!

*Sisters in Christ, I know it’s hard to wait. *

Believe me I’ve been there. I have waited, waited while talking, waited while heartbroken, waited while in avoidable situationships.

Believe me I’ve been there. I have waited, waited while talking, waited while heartbroken, waited while in avoidable situationships.

I knew each time something was not right. I knew each time that there was that one, or two, or five thing(s) that the person did that I couldn’t live with. But because of the fear of being lonely I stayed, until I couldn’t take it anymore. When I prayed these situations away, those were some of the fastest responses I ever received! If I had only listened to God telling me “No, he’s not the one” I’d have saved myself so much drama!

*Too often, we settle for less!*

We shouldn’t just look for someone who has a job to be a wife to. We came to earth on our own, we have a purpose to fulfil too! It could either be by yourself or with your spouse but if you don’t ask the Giver of the Purpose you would end up having a regular life when you were actually meant to be that world record breaker. How would you know?

When your spouse gets upset with you carrying out the fire that burns in your heart for the fulfillment of your purpose and yet the Bible says you should submit...who would you blame? Yourself or your spouse?

Take your time hun, pray, choose as your God-given instinct leads you, and run with purpose!

I’ll check in soon with a part 2, but in the meantime, I’m praying with you!

Love,

A fellow sister-in-Christ ❤️